Feel Your Feelings

Often when we are experiencing unpleasant emotions, we turn it off. We seek distractions. We deny their existence altogether. However when we do any of these and resist our emotions – they not only remain, they also get worse.

“Disowning your pain doesn’t make you happy. Drying yourself can prevent a cold. Denying cold will let it freeze you beyond your sufferings. People might not be able to handle it or stay close to it. You can’t be close to people by hiding your pain because that way you get away from yourself and away from yourself; you can’t be with someone else.

The right people will help you, shoulder the weight and if they can’t, they will walk with you as you do. Those who can’t aren’t worth your attempt to drown the ocean. Think to yourself, do people dislike lagoons and oceans because of the salt water? Be so much that anything about you cannot be held as you. You are a collection of pieces, not a piece. There would be those who’d want the salt (how, from the water, salt can be removed if someone knows how to), those with open wounds will keep away for their own sake, timid ones will admire from afar. Surfers will take up the challenge. Then there will be those who see beach day as a perfect day, even if they stay far away. Do you think the ocean cares about any of this?”

Excerpt from poetry book, Pure Soul

Dealing with emotions is hard, we are never taught how to. As adults one good thing that we can do for yourself is – feel your emotions, accept them. This can be made easier by sharing the emotions with someone.